It's quite amazing how we have progressed given that my view of relationships have always been slightly skewed. Looking back, do remember moments when I would launch into lengthy tirades to Ed (during the friends phase) on how relationships were a waste of time. *sheepish look*
And the story begins with one very stubborn girl who thinks she doesn't need a guy to run her life who met a boy who thinks girls worship the earth he walks on. Naturally, things changed and the girl comes to realise that there are many things in this boy worth appreciating!
SO...before I go any further, thought it would be timely to re-count (my version) of how I realised that things could actually work out. As mentioned in my personal blog entry, I had drilled down what I really wanted in my future husband to the following:
- Shares the same beliefs - For me, he needs to be able to spur me on in growing and becoming a better person in Christ.
- Supportive- In addition to him being supportive of me, I need to want to support him in his ministry, through his trials and dreams etc.
- Chemistry - This is where the personal 'like factor' comes into play.
It took awhile before I saw all the above in Ed..and it was also a change in my attitude during this personal journey that finally led me to realise the person I was looking for was already in my life.
People have asked me why I like/love/decided on Ed and after much hemming and hawing, here goes:
He's a GREAT other half because he...
- Encourages me in my walk with God
- Challenges my assumptions on life, religion and every other thing under the sun (we tend to disagree more often than not)
- Makes me realise how I can be such an irritating know-it-all (who actually doesn't really know that much at all)
- Makes me laugh
- Cheers me up when I'm feeling lousy
- Bears with my crankiness
- Listens to me ramble
- Attempts to dissect my numerous theories on life and other what-nots
- Continues to shower me with love and affection even though i'm a real ice maiden
So there..this is my WIP list of things I like about Ed.
It's been quite an amazing journey especially when I reflect on how we have progressed since our introduction in 2003. Still remember our first encounter which left me thinking he's so boliao and him thinking I was such a ms high-and-mighty:
Date: Sometime in end 2003
Location: Ee-lin's cubicle on 7th floor, STB
Ed: Hi! Are you Mrs Chua's daughter?
EL: Ya. [followed by a "are you duh?" look and turns away]
Ed: Oh. ok.. [walks away slowly thinking "she also not that pretty what..so tao for what? I'm also not sian-ing (chasing) her."]
It still cracks me up whenever I think about our first encounter. Like I said, these things are all very complicated...
1 comment:
haha..did Ed share that last comment with you sometime later or did you just make that up? It was believable Ed language (aka beng language) though...teehee..;)
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