Bridging the Couple Divide

It never fails to amaze me how different Ed and I are even in the way we answer the questions found in our marriage prep book. It was a poignant reminder for me how different we were even in lifestyle preferences, boiling down to the simple things like housework and dates (post marriage). Some examples:

1. How often will you eat out?
Ee: 3-4 times a week (including da-bao from hawker centre)
Ed: Once a week (meaning nice meal and/or da-bao.)
Ee: Er...You sure?

2. How clean do you want your house to be?
Ee's very comprehensive answer: Mop the floor once a week, vacumn twice a week, cleaning of toilets once a week, changing of bedsheets every alternate week and all dishes/cups should be washed daily.
Ed: Cleaning lady once a week!
Ee: Erm..but dishes/cups should still be washed daily?

3. How often will you go out on dates?
Ee: Once a week without children and twice a month with children.
Ed: Was thinking along the lines of twice a month without children and perhaps once a month with children. *huh look?*
Pastor: Everyday can be a date.

[Post-note: I later found out though that Ed's definition of a date, which means a fancy dinner, well thought out programme was very different from my idea of a date ie. just chilling out and having a good conversation without any other distractions. This explained the different answers. *relieved look*]

The good thing is at least we now have an inkling of the areas where we have quite different viewpoints and aspects we need to agree on leading to our walk down the aisle.

There's a lot more to work through especially in areas like finance management, conflict resolution. But guess that's part and parcel of preparing ourselves for life after THE WEDDING.

*pensive look*