Quality Time....

The husband is in NewYork now and missing the wife.

Have been convicted that there is an increasing need to intentionally set aside time to communicate. Just being together physically does not equate to quality time.

Marriage is a strange journey but one that is very much worthwhile. Two imperfect people (some more imperfect than others *stares at protruding tummy*) coming together for to build one life...... but then that's when you realise its not all about you. In fact, its not about you at all..... but about God and the other person.

Because of our love for God, our desire has to be to make the spouse happy, to meet the spouses needs. This, I recently realised, is a non-negotiable. For a marriage to work out, it cannot be a 50-50 arrangement but a 100-100 arrangement where the 100% put in by each spouse is for the other. Lofty ideals? Yes. But the grace of God will get us there... eventually.

As an author once said, perhaps the highest purpose God had for marriage is not happiness but holiness, that marriage is a tool and a context that is meant to refine us to make us more like Jesus.

Wifey has been quite patient thus far. I've been far far too busy for my own good. We're now working on developing a schedule which enable us to "institutionalise" our quality time. Some might already be thinking, that that's boring and unspontaneous. But believe me, if you have a million and one demands, pulling you in all directions, such a system would really help. Plus, the spontaneity can be in what we do during those times and not necessary when it happens.

We'll be planning for a short vacation for wifey's upcoming birthday in May. Yes yes... its takes a while to save up. This is not a good year. Will keep everyone updated once we've decided on where to go =)

Both of us will have to work at this but I believe that the rewards will be great as the Lord blesses our marriage and our walk with Him as we honour Him.