Upon reading today's challenge, was reminded that it's so easy to adopt a selfish perspective in terms of my expectations, wants, needs and sometimes demands. Furthermore, while I'm always quick to rationalize or defend my actions, I can't say I'm as kind towards Ed.
Quoting the book:
"We live in a world that is enamoured with "self". It is a trait we hate in other people but justify in ourselves....[however] true love looks for ways to say "yes"....When you prioritize the well-being of your mate, there is a resulting fulfillment that cannot be duplicated by selfish actions."
Although the spirit is willing, the actual doing is alot tougher.
If I'm going to make any progress , will have to start cultivating an "others-centred" mindset, make a greater effort to be more conscious of my motives (hidden or otherwise) as well as being more intentional in putting Ed's needs first.
Btw, I am still working on not making negative comments. It's so easy to forget that I'm supposed to be encouraging versus being critical.
Can I just hide behind my inherently flawed state of being? *sigh*
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